Grief – forgetting and regrets

Friends, I want to share some of what I’ve been feeling because I’m thinking that some of you might deal with feelings like this, too. And I want to remind you (and myself) that it’s all a normal part of the grief journey. 

The first feeling can best be described as ๐’˜๐’๐’“๐’“๐’š๐’Š๐’๐’ˆ ๐‘ฐ ๐’Ž๐’Š๐’ˆ๐’‰๐’• ๐’ƒ๐’† ๐’‡๐’๐’“๐’ˆ๐’†๐’•๐’•๐’Š๐’๐’ˆ. I’ve shared about this before, because my mom hasn’t been with us here on earth for over 20 years. Both of my kids, now young 20-somethings, have grown up without her physical presence in their lives. And motherhood has been and continues to be the highlight of my life. I’ve embraced life in spite of the fact that she hasn’t been here to share in it with me, and sometimes I’ll catch myself and wonder if I’ve been thinking about her enough. Or if I’m forgetting so many precious memories as I’ve continued to make new ones. 

The other feeling falls into the category of ๐’“๐’†๐’ˆ๐’“๐’†๐’•๐’”, and it has popped up mostly relative to my dad. He passed away rather unexpectedly a little over a year ago, and there are things that play over in my mind sometimes that I wish I’d said/asked or done. I especially wish that I’d hugged him more, in spite of the circumstances in the hospital. 

Logically I know that these feelings – ๐’˜๐’๐’“๐’“๐’š๐’Š๐’๐’ˆ ๐’‚๐’ƒ๐’๐’–๐’• ๐’‡๐’๐’“๐’ˆ๐’†๐’•๐’•๐’Š๐’๐’ˆ and ๐’“๐’†๐’ˆ๐’“๐’†๐’•๐’” – are normal. But they can still bring on sadness and so I want to reassure you that if you find yourself immersed in similar feelings…it’s okay. We can always reflect and journal and look at photos and talk with others to help when we feel like we may be forgetting. And our hearts and souls can never forget. As for regrets, it helps to write a letter to your loved one, or speak to them out loud, to share your feelings. They hear our thoughts, and what’s on our hearts. 

๐Ÿ’œ ๐“ข๐”‚๐“ญ๐“ท๐“ฎ๐“ฒ

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